Counter intuitively, working from home is for the extroverts

re: Counter intuitively, working from home is for the extroverts

HeatherLeigh — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:49:00 GMT

Hehee, yeah, you young kids should be taking dating advice froma single 40 year old :)

Regarding your #3, I think when you speak assertively (to make a point), people can assume that you are arrogant. I think that must be why so many poeple come back with the "you ar wrong" responses versus "I was thinking about this a different way...". Can't tell if it's a crisis of communication or egos gone wild :)

And, Ian, most people aren't as smart as we are ("not that we are so great"). Ha!

re: Counter intuitively, working from home is for the extroverts

Ian Selvarajah — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 03:58:09 GMT

I've gotten the same "I can hear you speaking when I read" comment- that's what's great about the personal/casual style of blogs!

Your blog is different though because it is more a professional than a personal blog - which makes it stranger that people would assume your blog is the whole package. I don't even assume that the person I know [in real life] in the office is the whole package!

"Blogging and dating" should probably have it's own post as well! Allow me to offer my 2 cents-

1) They should know that you're more of a professional blogger, so why would you go into details of your love life?

2) Would you really want to date someone who would make such a snap judgment?

3) See# 2 and in my experience, people who thought others were cocky have oftentimes simply just been insecure with themselves. Insecurity = major turnoff. I'm curious to know your thoughts as I noticed you clarified 3 times that you don't think you're "so great or the shizz"! :)

One last thing: Taking dating advice from me is probably a reeeaally bad idea... :)

re: Counter intuitively, working from home is for the extroverts

HeatherLeigh — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 23:50:38 GMT

Haha. Uhm, well, my friends definitely say that when they read my posts, they can hear me in their head; the point being that my writing style and speaking style are similar. This is pretty much what I was going for in finding my blog voice. I think that if someone were to just read my blog, they would likely get the impression that I am intense. I mean, I don't talk about the boring stuff; how much I like the beginning of the day when the sun is just over the horizon line, or how much I absolutely adore my friends kids. You know, I just don't write about the more delicate aspects of life.

I should use your disclaimer line on my blog! It's totally unnerving to have people say they know me because they read my blog. First, it reminds me of people that feel like they know a famous person (not that I am, bc I am not!) because they watch them on TV. It's freaky. Frankly, I have had about as much stalker behavior in my life as I can take. I know that the vast majority of people here know the difference between knowing a person and reading their blog, but n my last post, seeing people draw sweeping conclusions about my personality only by reading my blog, makes me nervous.

The other downside to this is dating. I have seen that "oh crap" look on someones face when they realize that I am a blogger with a relatively sizable audience (again, not that I am so great, but I am read). I can't put my finger on what it is exactly: 1) worry that I will write about them in my blog (I won't), 2) concern that what I have written is who I am (it's not) or 3) that I think I am the shizz (I don't). Amazing how the blog can complicate things.

Anyway, I'll use some of what I just wrote in the next post. It's kind of been on my mind lately and I need to purge.

re: Counter intuitively, working from home is for the extroverts

Ian Selvarajah — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 23:32:12 GMT

<i>"Researchers studying bodily reactions found that co-workers on different continents experienced the same chemical responses as they would in face-to-face meetings."</i>

I found that part particularly interesting. I should send this to my managers as I'm an extrovert through and through!

re: Blogger vs. the "real" person...

I've always believe no matter how open one is, a blog is still a window (or a preview) to the person and definitely not the whole person. I mention it in my disclaimer: <i>"...please don't assume you know me because you're a regular reader."</i>

The bloggers I've spoken to offline reflect (more or less) what I would have expected from reading their blog. Do your friends who read your blog feel "One Louder" is an accurate representation of Heather? I guess I can always wait for your post... :)