Software Engineering, Project Management, and Effectiveness
Emotional intelligence is how you gain control over your lizard brain.
Here's what Seth Godin says about the lizard brain: "The lizard is a physical part of your brain, the pre-historic lump near the brain stem that is responsible for fear and rage and reproductive drive. Why did the chicken cross the road? Because her lizard brain told her to."
Emotional intelligence is kind of a big deal.
In fact, according to Daniel Goleman -- “As much as 80% of adult 'success' comes from EQ.”
But there's more ...
“Comparing the three domains, I found that for jobs of all kinds, emotional competencies were twice as prevalent among distinguishing competencies as were technical skills and purely cognitive abilities combined. In general the higher a position in an organization, the more EI mattered: for individuals in leadership positions, 85 percent of their competencies were in the EI domain.” — Daniel Goleman
So, if you want to improve your personal effectiveness, emotional intelligence is a key.
And, if you want to learn more about emotional intelligence, take a stroll or a scroll through my latest collection of quotes:
Emotional Intelligence Quotes
There's words of wisdom on emotional intelligence from Benjamin Franklin, Buddha, Dale Carnegie, Vincent Van Gogh, and more.
I have read Goleman's book, but found it too abstract and too vague to be useful. Same with most quotes I have read about EI.
Then I came across Cesar Millan's Dog Whisperer series on tv - and this turned out to be extremely useful. Even though the programme is nominally about dogs, it's actually primarily about human psychology. Problems with dogs generally just reflect problems in the respective human's psychology.
It's brilliant to see how a dog's behavior changes as the human's behavior changes - especially as those changes in the human seem so subtle.
@ Sophia -- Great tip. Yes, we learn a lot from the whisperers.
@ Bavisiya -- Check out Emotional Capitalists: The New Leaders, by Martyn Newman. Martyn wrote the book to turn EQ into an actionable set of habits and practices.