Rampant Reactions

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Anutthara MSFT — Sun, 28 Oct 2007 18:14:51 GMT

The best way I've found not to go up in smoke at tiny things is to do SKY(http://us.artofliving.org/art-of-living-course/sudarshan-kriya.html). Trust me, it works. Such a noticeable difference in just 15 simple minutes. Awesome!

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Irrational Robot — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 18:52:17 GMT

As a rule, assuming that people mean well is a fantastic idea. The vast, vast majority of people really think they are doing the right thing, and acting as if you recognize this is the way to be. Also- in a potential conflict, offering to help is almost always well recieved, or at least helps defuse the situation.

Example: I take a vanpool to work, and one day I decided to grab the van to go out and get a cup of coffee while reviewing some documentation. Not seeing any of my other riders online, I just grabbed the van and headed out. When I got back (an hour or so later), I had several emails and voicemails from one of the guys in the van who needed the van for a doctor's appointment.

In this case, I could've dropped into defensive stance ("How was I supposed to know that you had a Doctor's appointment?"), but I chose to take the more passive approach: "I'm sorry I had the van when you needed it, I hadn't realized that you had an appointment. What can I do to make this up to you?" The guy was still pretty mad, but realized that there wasn't really anything else I could do (and I think he realized that I wasn't entirely in the wrong).

It isn't relevant here, but I'll also reccomend Deep Survival (a book about people responding to life threatening crises) as a great book about dealing with radical organizational change....

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Dan Stewart — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 17:58:07 GMT

In order to master your mood you must do five things:

1. Get 6 - 8 hours of sleep at night. (Nobody wants to be around a cranky baby who needs their nappy time.)

2. Don't load up on sugar and caffeine. (Both of these drugs are uppers which can make you agitated.)

3. Exercise regularly. (This allows the releasing of adrenaline. You won't blow up at the next person that makes you mad because you're fresh out of the adrenaline you need to make it a really good fight.)

4. Help those less fortunate than you are face-to-face. (Giving $5 to the March of Dimes won't cut it. You need to see people where they are hurting and help. Then little fights at the office don't seem like that big of a deal anymore.)

5. Center yourself first thing in the morning through prayer, meditation, etc. (I don't know if you have spiritual beliefs, but quieting yourself down in the morning is important if you want to keep your temper quiet all day.)

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Len Struttmann — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 15:30:40 GMT

Re: "I find that after reading a book like this I do a better job of keeping my cool -- for about two weeks." This is an interesting observation that matches mine. Is it coincidental that many conventional religious organiztions customary have weekly services, times to socially interact AND for weekly "refresher courses" on that organization's life-skills?

-Len

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Mike Brown — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 22:27:47 GMT

Wow. What a very timely message for me. I need to learn how to zenify my life. I believe it would bring me one step closer to being the person I want to be. Deep breath...now exhale all the bad vibes...and inhale again, replacing all the staleness clouding my being with fresh, happy, relaxing thoughts.

I feel much better now. Thanks Michael!

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Nick — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 21:08:27 GMT

I find that after reading a book like this I do a better job of keeping my cool -- for about two weeks. It gradually drifts away. Although, like any learning, it is now far easier to regain my emotional balance once I am reminded of it.

I think that when I too had the realization that by not being aware of your own emotions you give others immense power was the point that I really started to "get it."

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