Just got home a little while ago, and I am definitely BWI (blogging while intoxicated). This is something that a friend of mine warned me about, but I think it'll be okay.
The only real risk is that sometimes you can have an idea that seems like a really good one at the time (since you are drunk) but once you are sober you realize was not as good as you thought it was.
Kind of the beer goggles approach to blogging for software developers in that weird place that I call:
Not too drunk to write code, but way to drunk to be checking code in.
Many developers (as well as some testers and program managers) who have similarly blurred work/life balances will know what I am talking about.
Anyway, I was with some friends at a club and we ended up having a very random conversation.
We were at the bar, so those things can happen.
Someone else who was getting a drink was telling her friend that she had seen What Women Want the other day (that movie I talked about back in I am 20 out of 21 and flexible on the capital punishment issue) and she was asking her friend if she ever was sitting with someone who they suddenly found themselves making out with.
They got their drinks and left, but the question lived on with us.
I pointed out it has happened to me, though I don't usually remember initiating anything -- I am much more of an "almost initiate but back off at the last minute" kind of guy, which allows it to either happen eventually or never happen, depending on the preference of the other person.
While still taking the first -- potentially embarrassing -- step of admitting interest.
The other times that spontaneous make out sessions happened, it was either completely the other person, or maybe no one initiated and it just happened. Like spontaneous combustion or something.
And no, this is not a "being drunk" kind of thing -- I learned years ago to keep it holstered when drinking; it is just better for everyone.
For example, I didn't make out with anyone tonight. :-)
It reminds me of an incident from nearly two decades ago -- I was at a party at Johanna's house, the last party where I ever seriously drank beer. I had way too much, and I was sitting with Johanna out on the stoop. Suddenly I realized something:
Michael: Jo, can I ask you something?
Johanna: Sure.
Michael: I have to throw up now. Should I go (a) go inside to the toilet, (b) go behind the bushes over there, or (c) do it right here on the sidewalk?
<<pause while Johanna, who was also pretty drunk, thinks about this>>
Johanna: If you do it out here then people will get it on their shoes later when they leave. But if you try to go inside you may not make it due to lines. I'd go with the bushes.
Michael: Very sound reasoning. will you excuse me for a moment?
Johanna: Certainly.
<<pause while I go off to throw up>>
Now what was most odd about this was the way that a pressing need/want to do something came up, yet there was a surrealistic pause to analyze the issue and weigh options. Who the hell takes the time, or at least spend the time they have in that particular way?
But have you ever found yourself in one of those situations where you are irrevocably committed to that kiss that you know will become a make-out session in a real Liz Phair Why Can't I? sort of way (ref: here and here), yet you take the time beforehand to analyze it with the other person?
I am not sure what the hell this is -- I mean the only thing you can really accomplish here is to talk yourself or the other person out of it. Maybe it is intentional auto-sabotage? But it has happened, and it kind of makes me think that these rare spontaneous make-out sessions weren't my idea (since if they were I wouldn't trying to be talking anyone out of anything).
Though it isn't like this is such a common occurrence that I have a real statistical universe from which to draw conclusions.
But I was having lunch with a friend the other day, and I remember at a previous lunch she related something like this happening at a party. Though she hadn't mentioned any attempts to talk anyone out of anything so I suspect that maybe this is just me (or anyone who thinks themselves generally unworthy?).
The decision of the group of people (my friends who were there and the people sitting around us who got into the conversation) was that for most people it only happens when one or both of the people involved have been drinking, and there are seldom huge conversations beforehand. for normal people the spontaneous make out sessions are rare but when they do happen they are truly spontaneous make out sessions.
The secondary conclusion (based on my experiences and one other guy's -- a guy who was also a software developer) was that software developers are the only ones who would make the mistake of talking their way out of it, of snatching defeat from the jaws of victory and wearing it like a shawl. And that we should really try to work on that.
I agreed to take it under advisement (though the situation is not all that common these days so it feels like a fairly theoretical point....
So how about regular readers -- any spontaneous kissing with people you haven't kissed before?
And if so, is it really spontaneous or so you do your damnedest to talk your way out of it first?
And finally, are you a software developer? :-)
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